“I am not worthy”
“Their needs are bigger than mine”
“I don’t have time!
“I don’t have spare money”
Just a few of the negative things we may say to ourselves when thinking about doing something for ourselves. Thinking like this can make us feel even more unworthy.
But, it’s not really good enough is it? We should look after ourselves and our minds.
If we don’t relax and give ourselves some time in our day, we might frazzle, burn out, get bored, resent others…
Now, as we know, some hobbies or things we may enjoy may take up quite a bit of time, such as boating, visiting art galleries or stately homes, hiking, judo, shopping, a college course in drawing, cooking or learning a language… but they could be very fulfilling.
On the other hand, if you are a very busy person already, you might try practising mindfulness, meditation or just sitting and giving yourself a few minutes to think of nothing. Often you will find that something random and interesting will come to mind. I find my creativity is at its peak and I find answers to things I have been worrying about, if I just …….Continue reading If in doubt, do things you enjoy…
OK here goes another ditty, poem, rhyme; whatever you want to call it. Don’t expect a great poem, just a little story about the
My plants May 2015
last three weeks and four days…
Three weeks, four days, it has passed so fast
Made me feel unreal at times, like I was wearing a mask
Mum was first in intensive care, it was really touch and go
Her lungs were punctured, atrial fibrulation; her heart was fast and slow
She looked so frail and small in bed, sedatives keeping her calm and asleep
We thought the worst, we thought too much, and many tears I did then weep
But she got through, and she was moved, the trauma ward, where she could rest
She was confused, teary and annoyed, she also felt like she was a pest …….Continue reading Three weeks and four days… Mum and being positive, a poem…
Behind Those Eyes front cover
I am very excited about re-launching ‘Behind Those Eyes’ a kindle book I published in 2014. Its new name is ‘Behind Those Eyes: Life on the streets of London’, it has a brand new cover, and is now available as a paperback as well as an e-book.
Aidana Willow designed the new cover; some links to it on her blogs can be viewed by CLICKING HERE and HERE and HERE (all open in a new window)
Check out the new cover on Amazon:
Amazon UK CLICK HERE
Amazon COM CLICK HERE
It’s full of twists and turns and hopefully the story will surprise you!
Storyline: Two homeless men, a successful brother and sister, a woman falling in love, a man with family problems, a policeman and a whole lot of twists in this ‘sliding doors’ style novella. It’s a story about people and adversity, love, friendship and stigma. Will you work out what they have in common?
It’s a work of fiction, but is my favourite of all my books so far, as researching and writing it was so very humbling and interesting. I now work with homeless people, and my message is the same as with mental health issues and elderly – do not judge or stigmatise. People become homeless for such a …….Continue reading Re-launching ‘Behind Those Eyes’ Life on the streets of London; re-edited, on paperback and with a new cover!…
A ditty, poem, rhyming verse, whatever you want to call it, that I just made up about mindfulness and living in the
moment… (N.B. Although I love writing, this type of writing is not my forte, so don’t expect too much please It was also written in a few minutes, but I don’t feel the need to work too hard on it as it’s the message that counts)
Stressed to my hilt, about my parents health and care
I went to Portugal with Chris, and I managed to chill out there
For the first time, in many years, I left all my troubles behind
As I practised relaxation skills, it’s about ‘training of your mind’
‘Being in the moment’ is somewhere many of us are not at
We like our technology, a fast paced life, materialism and all that
Mobile phones, we can’t stop texting, telly on while we try to eat
It’s no wonder we don’t think constructively, so many challenges we must meet …….Continue reading Mindfulness, a poem, relaxation and living in the moment…
Jealousy – there’s nothing nice about it. Not for the jealous person, nor for the
Titus my cat in the sink
I have been jealous. I have felt the rage wanting to erupt from my insides. I have even been incapable of covering it up with some people in my past. It has wrecked friendships and made me look completely self centred. But then, I probably was at the time.
However, it has just occurred to me that I no longer suffer with the green eyed monster bubbling away inside of my being. Why? Well, I had to think about that a little, and discuss it too, to clarify my thoughts…
Having dealt with many of my inner demons of mood swings, depression, anger, …….Continue reading The only green eyes in my life now are my cat’s!…
I am being forced, if you like, to think about age. Together with ‘death’, and ‘time’, it’s another topic I usually try to
Me at 41
avoid. They make me anxious, sad and far too thoughtful. But, my parents are ageing quickly, it seems, since losing certain things in their lives and being forced out of their denial of their age. It is sad, but true.
Dad has been going through depression, and now my mum is depressed amongst other things, like forgetting a lot. She feels like giving up. And so, in trying to think of things they have worth living for, and doing my counselling course which gets me thinking a lot now about others (especially how to empathise and not be judgemental), age has been a subject close to mind for a few weeks now.
I realised that I can empathise with teenage angst, for example, because I have lived it. I have been there and …….Continue reading The subject of age – how much do we really think about the elderly and getting older? Empathy or ignorance? And what about us?…
I don’t know about you, but I have a bit of an issue with ‘Time’.
I have been researching Multicultural counselling for my course, and when I got to the section on the ‘Significance of time’ it made me stop and think… quite a lot.
My cactus flowering in ‘it’s own time’
I have quite a few issues with the huge significance of time in this Western World of ours:
- I do not like to see clocks and I do not wear a watch
- I hate to hear a clock tick tock (ing) my life away
- I have an issue with the future death of significant others, so knowing a person’s age (despite loving to celebrate birthdays; yep contradiction there), each year getting a year older, increases my fear.
- I feel like ‘time is running out’ – to have babies, to be the person I want to be etc.
- I have to check my diary to see what I am doing this week, today etc
- Time adds pressure to my life, I feel. I am sure I would enjoy life more without having the constraints of time. I would drop in and see friends without an appointment, I would feel more free…
In traditional cultures, the focus is on the ‘here and now’ and the ‘past’. In Western cultures, the focus is on the ‘future’. It is no wonder, then, that I take from the Buddhist culture (mindfulness) and the Hindu culture (yoga) to …….Continue reading The significance of time, mindfulness, past, present, future, counselling, fate and yoga…
I was just saying this week how looking back at the times my mental health issues were at their worst and I was out
My first memoir
of control, seems surreal and it’s like watching a fiction film in my mind – a nightmarish story at times. How far I have come… I begin my counselling placement next week and I am really looking forward to it! I am an integrative counsellor, taught CBT, person-centred and
My sequel memoir
I started my first counselling course in September 2012 and I remember it clearly. That formed a part of my sequel memoir ‘39’…
October 2012… I recently enrolled on a college course; ‘AQA Intro to Counselling’ on Mondays … only a couple of hours each week with a few hours’ homework…
I hope it will all go well for me, as it will be a whole lot different to being indoors working from home in hibernation and solitude a lot of the time. I hope to get on well with my classmates, gain some confidence, and learn in a classroom environment towards qualifications and a new line of work eventually, in the years to come…
I was so nervous to start college at first, thinking… will I get on with people? Will I be able to keep up? Will I be able to cope with the role plays? Will I cope with the new academic environment – a place I haven’t been in for many years? But, luckily, I was too excited about starting the course to worry much and, as usual when it comes to worry anyway, it would have all been for nothing as I loved the classes within minutes of being there. …….Continue reading I start my counselling placement next week – finally feeling proud of myself!…