As a child, I had various jobs. I liked to earn my own money as I didn’t get regular pocket money. Ongoing, I would occasionally iron a shirt for two of my brothers and I would get a whopping 50p for each time as they would be in a hurry. Which in the early 1980’s was a lot of money.
These were my jobs from 13 to 16 years old… which was 1987 to 1990!
My first job as an after school local newspaper round and I loved it – chatting to some of the people I delivered to was a great way to learn how to talk to adults of all types, and I also loved the Christmas tips
My second job was in Primark, in its early days of trading. I didn’t like it at all. Spending hours picking up clothes that people had dropped or knocked onto the floor, or on the extremely busy tills was not my cup of tea.
As a summer job, I worked on the seafront making and selling fresh hot sugared ring donuts. That was OK. …….Continue reading Working as a child – my experiences…
living with depression and anxiety cover
I am very excited to launch my brand new book ‘Living with depression and anxiety: 26 ways to get you out of the fog, into the sunshine’ I hope it will help many people live better
Description: Amanda Green has lived with depression and anxiety since her teens. Now in her forties, and practising as student counsellor, she would like to share all her best tips and explanations for coping in everyday life. She explains, in easy to read terms, 26 self-help techniques and ideas, to help you through your darkest times, and to help you feel better.
Life enhancing, with thorough explanations, this book could help turn your life around as Amanda has with her own.
This book challenges stigma and inferiority issues, explains talking therapies, and delves into working with depression and anxiety from the inside out, using nutrition, writing, and getting to know yourself properly. It even incorporates how to look for other support including friends, family and animals.
Find your true self today and banish the label of depression and anxiety – learn to cope and feel a part of the world …….Continue reading Launching my brand new book ‘Living with depression and anxiety: 26 ways to get you out of the fog, into the sunshine’…
A few more ways to deal with depression…
It is very easy to feel inferior to others when we feel down or anxious and cannot do what we perceive others’ can do easily. If we feel very down and at times useless, we can make up stories that people are thinking negatively about us. We hear what we want to hear and don’t always hear what the person is really saying because something hits a chord with us and we concentrate on it so much we believe …….Continue reading Inferiority issues, depression, anxiety and a tip for self-destructive traits…
Do you suffer with depression and/or anxiety?
This blog is about recognising the signs for your symptoms of depression and anxiety, if you can.
For me… One of my internal processes begins with me getting stressed, then that stress becomes out of proportion as I become over anxious about even small things. But lots of small things build the stress, like bricks. To the outside world people might think that I am over-reacting to something small, but for me it’s not the small thing that has just occurred, it is just the LAST thing I can handle after the last brick topples me. After that I get a day of feeling more energetic and happy, dancing and feeling positive. Then I might come down with the crash of a depressive stage, but it will only last for a day or so. I know it well enough now that even if I feel like my life is terrible and I have no future worth having, I do know also that it will not last long and ‘tomorrow is another day’. Things will definitely get better. I have reminders around the house, or chat to people who can remind me to try to ensure I don’t forget. However, it’s easy to ignore if I feel too down.
So, that is a typical routine for me. How about you? Could you write a journal so that you can analyse your routines? Could you mark on the calendar good days, sad days, great days, bad days? Could you write notes and pin them to your fridge to help remind you that things will get better? Do you have someone you can call, see or chat to on-line who can help remind you?
Try to think of ways to recognise, acknowledge and act upon symptoms that are negative or positive that can help you feel better in the long term.
I am in the process of editing my book of tips to cope with depression and anxiety, and this is an excerpt. I will announce publication on my blog when it’s ready!
Chronic pain is what my GP called my back, shoulder and neck pain this week. I’ve had it for fourteen years and it just isn’t what I want to hear. I write this not to complain, as I have a lot to be thankful for, but just to share as I know I am one of many who live with chronic pain and are told there is nothing we can do about it.
In that fourteen years I have been to many specialists…
Osteopath – I saw an osteopath originally after a static line parachute fall went a bit wrong and I first had a problem fourteen years ago. I twisted as I threw myself out of the plane and was spun back apparently when the parachute opened. I couldn’t move my neck for a couple of days, but with osteopath treatment it eased. I was very physically fit then and worked in a very busy, physical role in the hotel industry and I continued to after my neck recovered.
Rheumatologists – Using a cortisone injection (which took my pain away for two weeks) they decided that Radiofrequency Ablation was the cure – a probe is used to burn away the problem nerves.
Physiotherapist – Said the arches of my feet were too flat and they used a mould of my arches to make a shoe insole to raise them.
Chiropractor – Told me I have one leg longer than the other so I am out of kilter, therefore my back is out of kilter and also that my neck was too straight when looking at an Xray of my upper back and neck. It should be curved.
NHS Pain Management Clinic – An MRI scan showed that there is severe exit foranimal narrowing on C5-C6 on …….Continue reading Living with chronic pain – do you?…
I have suffered with depression and anxiety for many years, and I use my experiences of coping to help others. I am currently editing my first self-help book on the subject and I wanted to share with you the letter U in the book, which is written alphabetically. U for understanding and empathy…
By ‘understanding’, I mean our understanding of how we are with others’ might affect them, so that we can become more self-aware. And by empathy, I mean understanding how someone else feels, so that we can understand them better. Empathy is like a comfort blanket we can offer someone without the emotion of sympathy, which is where we say how sorry we are or sad we are that someone feels a certain way. Empathy is far more powerful than sympathy when it comes to helping others’ so next time someone gets angry, sad or upset, try to understand why they might feel …….Continue reading U is for Understanding and Empathy…
“Counselling is not advising, gossiping or argument about anything. That’s chatting. Counselling is unbiased support”
Titus and I
Counselling occurs when a person (client) seeks the help of another (counsellor) and engages in private conversations with them in order to resolve issues in their life. A therapeutic relationship is key where the client feels at ease to share their problems with the counsellor and the counsellor listens, seeks to understand the problems from the client’s point of view (empathy) and gives them the space to explore their feelings, thoughts and behaviours. Important within this relationship is that the client is active and ready to engage with the counsellor in sessions. If they are not, then counselling does not occur. It is not about having a ‘chat’, it is about exploring issues, looking at thought processes, and a desire to change negative patterns.
I have had counselling on numerous occasions, as a client, and have mainly been open and honest about myself, my issues and negative personality traits as I see them. However, with one counsellor, I was not totally honest and held back information about my behaviours so as to protect myself. This stopped a counselling relationship to fully occur and I could not be helped with some of my issues. …….Continue reading My understanding of what is meant by the term ‘counselling’ and my approach to counselling. My counselling level 4 diploma course…
Every day I hear people moan, see people moan on-line, and most certainly moan myself. It is very easy to say what
I am thankful
we don’t like, what we want changed, what’s ‘not good enough’. Whether it’s a trip advisor review, a complaint about the government, a gripe with a family member or a friend has let us down, we just don’t seem to stop.
So, today I want to say thank you.
Thank you to all doctors, nurses and NHS staff who mended my dad’s diseased heart, via a triple heart bypass.
Thank you to all doctors, nurses and NHS staff who whizzed my mum to hospital after her fall, who mended her broken femur, put all her ribs back together, kept her alive, cured her septicaemia, found out her lithium was too high… who basically saved her life.
Thank you to the staff at the dementia home who helped us all to realise my mum’s dementia isn’t so bad yet and enabled her to get back home.
Thanks to dad for finally agreeing to have mum back and for looking after her – she is now thriving, and everything is much happier than it’s been in many years in that house. They get out a lot, mum is on her feet, her mind is better (dementia at bay for now), I see them; all is good.
Thanks to my friend, Anita, for sending me such a kind gift in the post. …….Continue reading It’s all too easy to moan, so today I am saying thank you! NHS, mum, dad and the UK…