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Dreams, nightmares, adversities and real life

Just a short post about dreams… (well short for me LOL)

I’d really like feedback from you guys so please comment below…

I have read a small amount about dreams and I keep a couple of dream ‘dictionaries’ beside my bed so that I can look up the topics in a particularly vivid dream on occasion. (and I mean occasion, I am not obsessed with this one!)

I was a troubled child in some ways and I had a recurring dream, on and on haunting me in my sleep; men chasing me. I was running from them, but my legs would become weak, I’d be overcome with tiredness, and the men were catching up with me, until I could virtually no longer move my body and would know that I would be caught by the men, even though I always woke before they did.

If, on the rare occasion, I had a nap in the afternoon it would be worse – I would feel half awake, half asleep, I could hear my mum and dad talking. I wanted to get up, but I couldn’t move. I tried so hard to move a limb, a finger or toe, to no avail. This soon put me off afternoon naps of course as a child. For years though, the dream of being chased by men came to me, night after night. I’d wake sometimes feeling positively worn out and not ready for the day at all. It was as if I had been awake and stressed all night long.

I couldn’t even tell you when those dreams stopped. One could say ‘How come, surely you’d know when they stopped if they were so bad?’ But it’s true. Maybe I knew at the time, but in any case, I have forgotten now and there was no note of it in my childhood diaries so it’s lost.

That isn’t to say I didn’t have bad dreams, because I always did. I don’t actually remember having any good ones at all. I dreamt alright, virtually every night, but not sweet dreams. I am not sure I would call all of them nightmares either, as I see those in a separate category to many of mine. Most of mine were what I would call undesirable adversities that we may well face or have faced in our real lives.

Yes I had some nightmares, harrowing nightmares – the type where I wake up and feel very upset, frightened and unsure for a few minutes whether it was all real. In latter years I could get so encompassed in the whole thing that, upon waking, I would just lay quiet, unmoving, and try to relive the whole thing again in my conscious mind. Why? I couldn’t tell you. I guess I wanted to find answers for problems in my real life – my sometimes living nightmare – in those creative stories my mind conjured up in the night-time. Eventually, when I was suffering mental illness the worst, reliving such dreams would make me feel really bad and when I told my ex what I was doing he told me to stop. It was a good idea and I did.

The reason for this post?

Because having discussed this with my dad this evening, I realised that I have had very few bad dreams (or at least bad dreams that I remember upon waking) for the last couple of months. I realised because I was telling him of my dream last night of my pin number being stolen by two guys I suspected, and I woke just as I found out my bank account was at zero pounds and my suspicions had been correct. My dream dictionary tells me that theft is maybe my subconscious warning that I should not take notice of those around me who may be interfering in my personal affairs, preying on my emotions or stealing my ideas. Wow! Is all I have to say about that!

Since realising the change in the pattern of my dreams, I am now going to keep a log to see if there is an underlying message or worry or sense of peace that is connected with them.

Does anyone else have bad dreams? Good dreams? A pattern of dreams? Less or more dreams? Any ideas on why? And do you keep a note of dreams? Do you look for answers in your dreams? I’d love to hear from you…

May your dreams be sweet tonight!

I do post fun stuff too – I reserve that for face book and twitter – go see me at face book where I post lots of photos and stuff FACEBOOK and TWITTER (both links open in a new window so you don’t leave my site 🙂 )

Amanda 🙂

 

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6 comments to Dreams, nightmares, adversities and real life

  • amandagreenauthor

    Mmmm very interesting dreams – so glad you have sorted out the first one. I took a look at my books and some websites and I will put my findings here but at the end of the day it is just what a website says not me, myself and I.

    To dream that you miss a train denotes missed opportunities. It also suggests that you are ill-prepared for a new phase in your life. You may be procrastinating or putting things off that should have already been completed.

    To dream that you are on a train symbolizes your life’s journey. It suggests that you are on the right track in life and headed in the right direction. Alternatively, the dream means that you have a tendency to worry needlessly over a situation that will work out in the end.

    To see a train in your dream represents conformity. You are just going along with what everyone else is doing. Alternatively, a train means that you are very methodical. You need to lay things out specifically and do things in an orderly and sequential manner. If you see a passenger train, then it relates to mental work. Dreaming of trains may also be a metaphor that you are “in training” for some event, job or goal.

    excerpt from http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary/t3.htm

    Then I found this website which offers a lot more info – http://www.analysedreams.co.uk/DreamsOfTransportation.html

    But if you could discuss with your therapist again to investigate your sub conscious thoughts associated with the dreams, then that would hopefully help you this time as well.

    Good luck!

    Amanda 🙂

  • Natasha

    Hello, it’s @minitashy here 🙂

    I was very interested in this post as I’ve spent most of my life having recurring dreams. I’ve only figured out the meaning behind one with the help of my therapist. This one is where I’m at the end of my degree and I’m going to fail because I have either missed the exams or have not bothered to revise for them. I had this one so often that I began to doubt whether I actually had a degree! I ended up talking to my therapist about it as they were becoming annoying. I explained that the content was very out of character – I was a very diligent student! He asked me about how I felt in the dreams. In the dreams I was never that concerned that I was going to fail, again very out of character. I can’t remember the exact meaning we came up with, but they have since stopped.

    However, another set of dreams have come back where I’m trying to get home but get stuck on either a train that’s going to take forever, or the wrong train. Sometimes I have to try and get a train where I have to go over rails that sometimes give me an electric shock (I’m from London originally where the Underground rails are electric and you’ll die if you end up on them). If anyone has any thoughts on that one, that would be great!

  • Tim Wightman

    Hello Amanda,

    I’m very interested in my dreams, they can be an extra tool when having mental health difficulties. I just woke up from quite a nasty dream that I’ve had two nights in a row. I’m at my family home with most of my immediate family and close relatives. Everything is going well until we are targeted by a gang of hoodies with knives, can’t see their faces they are very similar to the hoodies in the film “F”. Suddenly some of my old friends appear, we are all trapped with the fear. My dad won’t do anything and one of my friends wants to kill himself. I can’t run because I don’t want to leave them all behind and can’t tell how serious they are about using their knives, one tactic could be to attemtp the befriend the hoodies. It seems like I am the only one wanting to do something, I just have to work out the best way forward. At this point I woke with the intensity of the fear.

    It has many symbolic similarities to my situation a few years ago. I’ve had another reccuring dream lately where the problems did start to resolve themselves, hopefully it will be the same with this one.

    Tim

    • amandagreenauthor

      Hi Tim, thanks for your comment – it’s very interesting – and sorry for the late reply! I agree, our dreams, their content and emotion, can be another way to look at our mental health difficulties since it is our sub conscious running wild naturally that makes them occur.

      That’s a pretty terrifying dream by the sounds of it and I hope that you will be able to reach an end in the dream, if it persists, where it is resolved. It doesn’t make for a great day when we wake in fear, but I try not to indulge too much if it happens to me now. Writing it down quickly helps me to get it down but without too much thought.

      Hope they are getting better by now!

      Amanda 🙂

  • Stephanie Aubut

    Hi Amanda,

    Stephi aka @littlebouncer here. I have recurring dreams of finding my dream apartment and it ends up being where I had lived for 6 years but was evicted from last year because they decided to build condos. I think I keep having that dream because I’m living with my parents and have no sense of having a “home”, which I crave. I loved that apartment, I haven’t adjusted since, and it’s going on 2 years. I knew my life would not be the same after, weird hey. Before that, I had basically moved every year since I was like 19.

    I do research my dreams when they are vivid or recurring, and do learn a lot from them. You can kind of always make sense out of them in relation to your life when you read on it.

    Hope all is well 🙂

    -Stephanie

    • amandagreenauthor

      Hi Stephanie, thanks for your comments on your dreams. I was going to say that 6 years is a good length of time to live somewhere and stay still, but as you say you had moved a lot before so it must have been a real pull to move, particularly back to your parents. It does sound like it’s to do with your craving to have your own home again. Ahh, you will be back there again one day, making a new place your unique home and when you do it will be even better than the last since most things are when we have to wait for them.

      I agree that we can make some sense from our dreams because it is our own sub conscious that makes the dreams occur in the first place.

      I have just started my basic psychology college class and last night saw that we will be touching on ‘dreams’ as part of the course which is going to be really interesting I hope. Firstly, we are going to look at memory – I cannot wait!

      Hope you are well too – sorry for the late reply!

      Amanda 🙂

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