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Single at Christmas, loneliness, helping others, helping oneself and don’t wait for New Year’s resolutions!

Christmas Grotto Amanda Green Sandra Dean

I have found myself saying to people how I look forward to Christmas being over. Then, today, I realised this was terribly negative and unhelpful. It’s just that I have been feeling a bit lonely and alone in my troubles. Oh yes, I might be a counsellor, but

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Personal boundaries – do you really know what they are, why you should have them or how they will protect you?

Personal Boundaries

Do you know what a personal boundary is?

You might think of it as a way to cope with other people; a way to keep space between yourself and them. That would be right.

You might see it as a set of rules for dealing with a person. That would also be

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‘It could be worse’ poll, invalidation, and the results!

I have just completed my first poll to see how people feel about certain things.

On this occasion, I asked this question:

If you are feeling ‘really’ bad about something in your life that affects YOU negatively’ (physically or emotionally) and someone says ‘It could be worse’ or ‘others suffer more’ does this:

A Help

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A bit of time off, a holiday, mindfulness, relaxation, getting stuff done – can I inspire you?

Since finally accepting my mum’s downward curve, mentally, and a few other stressful things, I decided to make a new start for myself. I wasn’t sure what, but new anyway.

I haven’t rushed. I decided to have a little holiday, at home. Time off from the usual. No counselling; nothing. And it has been amazing.

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Endings, attachment and moving on

“I’m not good at endings”. Oh how many times I have said this, but today I realise that I am actually a lot better at them than I used to be. I guess part of it is that I am older, have more wisdom and experience and have had to get through a lot of

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The worst day of my life, thus far, in my forty one years – mum and vascular dementia

Yep, it’s another rhyming ditty/poem thing… 🙂

my echium pininanna

 

Six weeks today, my mum fell down the stairs

I thought this time, supporting her, was more than I could bear

But she came out of ICU, trauma ward, and now can walk

Even though she is slow, needs a Zimmer frame,

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