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Expectations other people put on us – how to react and decide what is important and what is not

I recently wrote a blog post about the expectations we personally have of others’, events and ourselves. (click HERE to read it) Today, I want to talk about how to deal with the expectations other people have of us.

We can control our own expectations, but we cannot control what other people expect of us,

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We all have expectations of other people, nature and self; but how can we tweak them to live a more satisfying life?

Even the most relaxed people have expectations – it’s human nature. Whether it’s expecting the weather to be as the forecast predicts, that our parents or siblings will be a certain way as family members, or that our job will be secure in the future. From the small stuff to the big stuff, we have

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Personal boundaries – do you really know what they are, why you should have them or how they will protect you?

Personal Boundaries

Do you know what a personal boundary is?

You might think of it as a way to cope with other people; a way to keep space between yourself and them. That would be right.

You might see it as a set of rules for dealing with a person. That would also be

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‘It could be worse’ poll, invalidation, and the results!

I have just completed my first poll to see how people feel about certain things.

On this occasion, I asked this question:

If you are feeling ‘really’ bad about something in your life that affects YOU negatively’ (physically or emotionally) and someone says ‘It could be worse’ or ‘others suffer more’ does this:

A Help

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A bit of time off, a holiday, mindfulness, relaxation, getting stuff done – can I inspire you?

Since finally accepting my mum’s downward curve, mentally, and a few other stressful things, I decided to make a new start for myself. I wasn’t sure what, but new anyway.

I haven’t rushed. I decided to have a little holiday, at home. Time off from the usual. No counselling; nothing. And it has been amazing.

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It’s all too easy to moan, so today I am saying thank you! NHS, mum, dad and the UK

Every day I hear people moan, see people moan on-line, and most certainly moan myself. It is very easy to say what

I am thankful

we don’t like, what we want changed, what’s ‘not good enough’. Whether it’s a trip advisor review, a complaint about the government, a gripe with a family member or

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