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Expectations other people put on us – how to react and decide what is important and what is not

I recently wrote a blog post about the expectations we personally have of others’, events and ourselves. (click HERE to read it) Today, I want to talk about how to deal with the expectations other people have of us.

We can control our own expectations, but we cannot control what other people expect of us,

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We all have expectations of other people, nature and self; but how can we tweak them to live a more satisfying life?

Even the most relaxed people have expectations – it’s human nature. Whether it’s expecting the weather to be as the forecast predicts, that our parents or siblings will be a certain way as family members, or that our job will be secure in the future. From the small stuff to the big stuff, we have

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My mum – from Schizophrenia to Dementia in 60 years

Let me start by saying I have not edited this post. It was enough to write it than to re-read it and make any corrections…

I want to share with you a little of my ongoing journey with my mum’s mental illness. Her and my dad’s 60th

mum and I Dec 2015 (a

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Assumptions, and why they can be so negative for ourselves and our relationships

‘Assumption’ – something that is accepted as true or as certain to happen, without proof.

We can believe many things, and make them our stories, but it doesn’t make them true.

We can believe things from:

our own imagination our own ideas our judgements of others’ our judgements of ourselves (we can project our judgements

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Single at Christmas, loneliness, helping others, helping oneself and don’t wait for New Year’s resolutions!

Christmas Grotto Amanda Green Sandra Dean

I have found myself saying to people how I look forward to Christmas being over. Then, today, I realised this was terribly negative and unhelpful. It’s just that I have been feeling a bit lonely and alone in my troubles. Oh yes, I might be a counsellor,

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The basic philosophy of living; our needs, desires and what makes us tick and make our lives worth living – existentialism

The basics of existence and life

I have been reading a little about Existential Theory and the philosophy of it, plus the whole concept of being genuine and a more authentic self. I find it fascinating and we can all gain something from it, so I have chosen to outline the highlights I

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