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Sandra Dean – Registered Member


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It’s World Mental Health Day 2020 and a difficult time in the world so I want to talk about the importance of self care and what it means

Lack of self care is often a feature with clients, which can be a sign of lack of self esteem and/or self worth. At best, it means we do

What are my personal needs?

not live our lives in the best way we can and do not nurture ourselves, and at worst it

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Do you compare yourself to others’ or expect too much from yourself? Be different, be unique and stop thinking ‘I should…’

I have written about expectations other people put on us, and expectations we may have of others’, but I want to question the

Be unique

expectations we put on ourselves. Possibly the worst type of expectation of them all. And are we just trying to fit in with the crowd or do we

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Do you ever have dark negative thoughts you want to avoid? And is your avoidance of your ‘shadow’ harming you and your relationships? It’s OK to be human.

I want to talk about something I think could help a lot of people.

I recently did a course called ‘Shadow Mastery’ for my counselling profession, but found it extremely useful for myself also. Our ‘shadow’ is a name for the side of ourselves that we do not wish to acknowledge, we want to avoid

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Mental health stigma, social media and counselling therapy

My mum was diagnosed with Catatonic Schizophrenia in the 1950’s and went into an asylum, which later were called psychiatric hospitals. There was a lot of stigma and I remember when I was six in 1979, word got out of my mum’s last stay in a psychiatric hospital and some children would chant about it

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The importance of self-care and how to do it, especially around grief

The importance of self-care and how to do it

Today, 23rd August, would have been my mum’s 85th birthday. It is the first one she has not been here for since her passing six months ago. I often wish I could see her, but especially today. Last week was my dad’s birthday and as

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Expectations other people put on us – how to react and decide what is important and what is not

I recently wrote a blog post about the expectations we personally have of others’, events and ourselves. (click HERE to read it) Today, I want to talk about how to deal with the expectations other people have of us.

We can control our own expectations, but we cannot control what other people expect of us,

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