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Do you compare yourself to others’ or expect too much from yourself? Be different, be unique and stop thinking ‘I should…’

I have written about expectations other people put on us, and expectations we may have of others’, but I want to question the

Be unique

expectations we put on ourselves. Possibly the worst type of expectation of them all. And are we just trying to fit in with the crowd or do we

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Do you ever have dark negative thoughts you want to avoid? And is your avoidance of your ‘shadow’ harming you and your relationships? It’s OK to be human.

I want to talk about something I think could help a lot of people.

I recently did a course called ‘Shadow Mastery’ for my counselling profession, but found it extremely useful for myself also. Our ‘shadow’ is a name for the side of ourselves that we do not wish to acknowledge, we want to avoid

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Acceptance of our past, present, future, ourselves and what others do is a key to contentment and happiness and very helpful to combat anxiety and depression

Acceptance of our PAST, PRESENT, FUTURE, OURSELVES and what OTHER PEOPLE do is a key to contentment and happiness, and helpful to combat anxiety and depression. Carrying around resentment, annoyance, or ill feeling about things we cannot change or our past negative experiences serves only to weigh us down with negative vibes.

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The importance of self-care and how to do it, especially around grief

The importance of self-care and how to do it

Today, 23rd August, would have been my mum’s 85th birthday. It is the first one she has not been here for since her passing six months ago. I often wish I could see her, but especially today. Last week was my dad’s birthday and as

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Self-esteem, self-image and summer – how is it for you?

Summer is well and truly on its way. But, for many, summer brings new stressors.

enjoy yourself!

The sun is shining, it’s getting warmer and brighter; what more could we want? Why could it make us feel low and anxious?

How we perceive how we look. Especially when comparing to others.

I personally

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Tattoos and me; nine reasons why having tattoos is good for me and my mental health, confidence, sense of belonging and much more

Having a recent tattoo by super talented Ben Harper of Vintage Inx, Basildon, we got chatting (I do love a chat while getting tattooed!) about the many benefits of having tattoos. It got me thinking, and I decided to share all the benefits relevant to me. It’s, surprisingly, a lot. I hadn’t realised. Although a

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